Flowers! And Question of the Day...
I'm posting flowers from my garden just for Maureen Child today! She's been SUBTLY REMINDING me to blog, and so...I'm blogging! And look Maureen, I can grow flowers! Okay, just Vincas, and maybe my husband did plant them but still. FLOWERS THAT AREN'T DEAD!
In other news--life has been crazy. A son broke his foot, a husband broke his tooth and I am taking the online PR Bootcamp class that is hard. Everyone wants to talk to me while I'm doing my homework. It goes like this:
Them "What are you doing?"
Me "Homework."
Them "For what"
Me "I'm learning how to set up a public relations campaign."
Them "Uh huh, I found candy in the cupboard, can I eat it?"
Me. "No."
Them "Grandma ate her Halloween candy and you had to buy her more." (True story and she was 90 lbs--life is NOT fair. I am NOT 90 lbs)
Me trying to look serious. "Don't start making me laugh." But the games over and I end up chatting for another half hour to kid or hubby.
An hour later, same conversation with another one of the men in my life.
Now for my question of the day: I heard this morning that some parents are taking kids as young as 11 months old to psychologist or therapists. Who do you think really needs the help--the kid or the parents? I mean COME ON! A baby needs sane parents not therapy!
posted by Jennifer at 8:32 AM
12 Comments:
Taking their babies to therapy? Here are my thoughts...
1) Babies need new parents
2) Parents need said therapist themselves
3) Parents have too much money
4) Parents have too much sparetime that should be spent playing with said baby
5) Drs. Spock, Freud, and Jung would have field days with this.
Pretty Vincas. You should try impatients.
Are you kidding me? My daughter could barely talk at 11 months little alone express her feelings.
Cele, I agree with all five of your thoughts! And now I'm mixed up--maybe those are impatients. We bought so many plants this summer, I'm confused...again :-)
Ktzmom, crazy, huh? I couldn't believe when I saw that.
Definitely for the parents. Poor kid. Hopefully the therapist will smack some common-sense into the parents.
What I'd like to know is whatever happened to spanking?
Why do we have to talk them to death when a quick smack on the pants says so much?
Just me?
:) d
Oh Dana, not just you! I'm not a big smacker :-) but when it came to my kids safety, I didn't trust on their reasoning skills at two. Run into the street, and I will swat your butt. Very effective.
Here's another mind bender, we've take all methods of discipline from teachers, and now people are calling for teachers to carry guns. Huh?
I really need to stop watching/listening to the news!
I heard the "teachers should carry guns" comment on TV and had to wonder, "What were they thinking?"
I remember when I was in high school La Mirada didn't have their own stadium. So we played at Excelsor, the most crime ridden school in the district. The rumors ran rampant, and leaving a football game was at times scary. But on hine sight, how much more scary would it have been with gun toting teachers in the mix?
Cele, it's such a knee-jerk reaction. Teachers should NOT carry guns. The idea is to give less access to guns for students, not more!
Okay Jen, first....I have flower envy. Damn it.
Second, what is WRONG with people? And what kind of psychiatrist would even TREAT a baby??
And Dana, I'm a big believer in the smack on the butt. You're supposed to set boundaries for kids.
For example, my daughter Sarah is a school psychologist. The other day, she told me about a third grader who chucked a chair at his teacher!!! hello?? Are there ANY parents out there???
They look like impatiens to me, Jen. But unless I'm up close, I can't tell the difference between vincas and impatiens. :\
Eleven-month-old in therapy? For what? Pacifier envy?
Well, if we can have dog psychics treating separation anxieties in canines, I suppose we could have shrinks translating baby-babble in disgruntled infants.
Dana, I'm pleasantly surprised to hear that today's parents of young ones are willing to use a modest amount of "hands-on" discipline. I assumed that went out of fashion after my kids were grown. My nephew was raised on "time outs" instead of spanking, and it drove us nuts at family get-togethers. However, that precocious little boy did turn out to be polite and considerate gentleman (now 20), much to our delight and amazement.
I'd like to know what kind of issues would an 11-month old have. I think some parents don't want to parent their own kids.
Maureen, a kid threw a chair at a teacher? How have we let this stuff happen? It's appalling! But your flower envy makes me laugh!!!!
Gillian, pacifier envy--LOL! And you're right, the flowers are impatients. I asked my husband. Sigh...I'm such a loser at gardening!
Dru, wow now that was an insightful comment about parents not wanting to raise their own kids. I think you might be on to something there.
Jen,
I’m not a big smacker either, but when I do, boy do they listen! For mine, usually a time-out or a talkin’ to does the trick, but sometimes there’s no time for that. Or they need a bigger reminder that what they’re doing is unacceptable. It’s not even hard. I don’t even think it hurts them more than they’re just so upset that they got the strongest of all the repercussions.
And guns in the classroom? I’m not even going to go there.
Maureen,
I’m with you. I know so many parents who forget that we’re the ones that set the boundaries, not the kids. And it’s usually them, the ones with the worst behaved children who look at me like I’m horrible for ever raising a hand to my child. Mind you, I rarely spank. But when it comes up with other moms that I do, it’s like throwing down a gauntlet. “You spank?” And I’m like, “You don’t?”
A third-grader throwing a chair at a teacher is unfathomable. I can just see the look of shock on my children’s faces if ever faced with another child behaving that way. Unbelievable.
Gillian,
I have some cousins raised the same way. They were awful. Two still are and are almost to adulthood. One, like your nephew, seems to have turned out healthy, which says a lot for him, I think.
Or maybe he was the kind of child that didn't need stronger discipline.
The thing is I do like discussion and time-outs too, but it just doesn’t work for every child and every situation. I don’t know why so many of my peers can’t see that. Or like Dru suggests, maybe they are the parents who really just don’t want to parent.
:) d
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