Once a Cheater????
Man, I am just looking for trouble. Still thinking about painting the boys rooms, and maybe even putting shelf paper in the kitchen cupboards. For a while yesterday, it actually crossed my mind to take the valances in the living room down and wash them.
Someone help me! I conquered this kind of insanity years ago and swore to never relapse.
I am getting a chance to read though, so that's super cool!
Question for you all--do you believe a hero/heroine who has cheated (sexually speaking) be redeemed?
My thoughts: Generally fiction is all about change and redemption, so in fiction, I think it can be done, although it takes a very skilled writer to convince men. In real life? I'm a heck of a lot less forgiving :-)
What about you all?
posted by Jennifer at 10:57 AM
7 Comments:
I agree with you 100%. In books I can forgive, in real life, not a chance in _____.
I think I am not of the norm. We all need to learn our heroes have feet of clay. After all if we can forgive them, can't we forgive ourselves?
In real life I've come to learn, an affair has nothing to do with me. I have learned that if my husband were to have a one time, damn I really screwed up moment. I could most likely forgive it - what are the extenuating circumstances? An affair? I don't think so. A rued mistake? Most likely. More than once? Get your appendages and you out of my life.
And with whom might factor into my final decision.
I will forgive a mistake much faster than a husband walking out on me, and then saying he thinks he made a mistake (real life) yep, idiot you did make a mistake now live with it.
Weird, out of the norm, I know. But I've thought A LOT about this.
Jen....Nope. I dont' forgive. Not even in books. Once a hero cheats, I just won't belive he really loves the heroine...
And in real life?? Not a chance.
Hollyd, I'm not as forgiving in real life either.
Cele, I like hearing your thoughts and it doesn't make me think you're weird! Every person handles these things differently.
Maureen, I don't like cheating. But occassionally I've forgiven them in fiction--didn't JR WARD have the hero in her second book cheat?
If it's presented early in the book and we see the climb to redemption, I could forgive.
In real life, not likely.
Dru, good point--cheating later in the book is harder to forgive.
In real life I could never forgive cheating. EVER. I don't have that kind of a personality. In fiction I am absolutely able to forgive as long as the hero/heroine seem truly changed. I guess it would depend on how it was written.
You're right, in the 2nd book he did cheat. The snake. He went out and cheated on her with some skanky bimbo. Now having said that, (I like Rhage, I must stick up for him)he was protecting her from the "beast" that lives inside him. He was scared what it would do to her.
In real life I'd still never forgive this, but that's what makes fiction great.
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