Friday, November 17th, 2017
Friday??? Seriously??? Where did the week go? Okay let’s do 5 things about our week!
- Not long after our trip to Florida, a very close family member was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. We’ve been shocked, devastated and scared. This week, we got a glimmer of hope for him in a second opinion and a possible treatment option. There’s no predicting how this will turn out, but we are very grateful for this ray of hope. There are so many people in the medical field working to save, extend and improve the quality of lives for people dealing with serious illnesses, and we are thankful. (It has been a brutal year with family health problems, weird how it all happens like that.)
- I’m working on SAVAGED DEVOTION when I can, but I can’t begin to predict now when it will be released. Last night, I was working, again, on my opening scene, and two distinct solutions occurred to me like light bulbs going on. I love those moments! Again, I’m both grateful and thankful to feel like my ability to write is returning.
- I saw Biker Witch yesterday for lunch and fun! We had prime rib/French dip sandwiches that rocked my world. Or maybe I just really needed some sister time
- I’m taking Maggie in for a vet check with the veterinarian my son’s fiance works for. (I took Bailey Dog there a few times too, they are great.) I’m paying for this myself to make sure she’s healthy and adoptable…because obviously I’m stupid in love with her Wizard really likes her too, although Maggie can be a little uncertain and skittish with him when I leave. She’s fine with him when I’m here so it’s getting better. We just have to believe that she will continue to improve with consistent love and structure. But if the vet finds problems, we have to re-evaluate given that we’re dealing with with serious family health issues, plus mine. I doubt anything serious will come up though.
- Do you guys realize Thanksgiving is next week??? Who let the holidays in????
Okay now it’s your turn to share five random things about your week. I hope everyone has a great weekend!
Wednesday, November 15th, 2017
Today I’m writing! Wizard will be gone all day, and I’m determined to get some real work done. Maggie is going to help
Now for our Wednesday Worthy Candidate–this is for those of you who don’t like the waxed look.
So what do you think, is he worthy?
Monday, November 13th, 2017
The weekend zoomed by! This week, Wizard and I have to make a decision about foster pup Maggie. But before I get to that, let me tell you about my weekend;
Friday I went to get my hair done, and because I’ve known my hairdresser forever and she works in a small shop, she let me bring Maggie to keep working on Maggie’s socialization skills. Maggie did great! She learned to stay on her blanket, and was really good with two exceptions:
–When she saw herself in the mirror and growled. I cracked ups, then showed her it was fine, and had her stay on her blanket there. She realized Mirror Maggie was okay.
–And second I was getting the color washed out of my hair, and I dropped the leash. Maggie always stays by me, except this time. Some older man came in and Maggie ran to greet him. I was stuck in the shampoo bowl trying to call my dog back, LOL! Sumerlee (my hairdresser) got her, and Maggie was fine. She didn’t bark, just politely greeted the man coming into the shop, then came right back with Sumerlee and laid down on her blanket. I shouldn’t have dropped the leash, that was my bad.
Then on Saturday, it was the Big Test. So you all know that Maggie’s being dealing with some separation anxiety. It’s been improving, but I hoped she’d be good. In the morning, I took her to Pet Co to get her some treats, then I stopped by on outdoor outlet center in our town where pets are allowed to walk her on flat ground. She was golden good. She even met another dog with no problems. Then came time for me to leave for my niece’s bridal shower. I was gone for over five hours, and had a great time. But I was nervous when I got home. And…
How did Maggie do?
She did pretty well. Wizard said she once once when I left, he told her to knock it off and come over to him, and she did. She occasionally went to the door to look for me, but no more whining and no distress panting. She spent a lot of time in my office chair, or sitting by Wizard. Otherwise she ate when hungry and was fine. A success!! Honestly, I still need to dial back some affection and keep leaving the house, but she’s showing steady improvement.
And that was my weekend. Sunday I was sore, tired and managed a couple of hours writing. I’m still wrestling the first chapter of the rewrite which will set the tone for the whole revision. My goal is to conquer it today.
Which all brings me back to Maggie. Wizard and I need to commit–so what do you all think we’ll do? Will we keep her or find her another awesome forever home???
So how was your weekend?
Friday, November 10th, 2017
Happy Friday! It’s time to list five random things about your week. Here’s mine:
- I’m enjoying walking and playing with Maggie so much, I gave myself a wicked case of shin splints on my right leg It’s improving day by day exactly like shin splints does. Over the weekend, I was running barefoot with Maggie on cement in the backyard, and I definitely brought this on myself.
- Still talking about Maggie–I left her with Wizard again yesterday for a couple hours with no crying! Her separation anxiety is improving as her confidence grows. She’s definitely a submissive/timid girl, but she’s really blossoming. We’re all learning.
- I working and reworking the first few pages of Savaged Devotions as I mentally replot the whole book and timeline from my critique partner’s awesome suggestions. Normally I rewrite much faster, but the whole Real Life things keeps getting in the way. However, I’m once again finding myself thinking about the book in any free moment, and that’s both a huge relief, and exciting, at the same time. I had began to wonder where the magic of hearing characters in my head, and feeling the drive to write, had gone. For months, it was only flickers in radio silence. It was frustrating and scary. (Also scary is trying to get my RA meds approved by my new insurance when I’m already late, but I don’t want to dwell on that right now. I’m thinking positive as much as I can.)
- This story has haunted me since I saw it on the news Wednesday night. It’s about animal abuse, so feel free to skip this if you want. But I just can’t shake it off–some asshole poured boiling water in his girlfriend’s dog. That is pure evil and enrages me, and I know all of you feel the same. The one bright spot is that the poor little dog cried out for help–and two 17 year olds were his hero that day. I’m so proud of them! They heard him crying, videoed the jerk, and called the police. I’m really proud of those teenagers! (I can’t believe that asshole who did it is out on bail though.)
- This weekend I’m going to my niece’s wedding shower. That’ll be fun to see her, and all the family as well celebrate her upcoming marriage in January.
That’s my Friday Five, now it’s your turn! I hope everyone has a great weekend!
Wednesday, November 8th, 2017
I came on here to post my Wednesday Worthy blog and found a really snarky comment on one of my past Wednesday Worthy posts. I hit spam and delete, and was just going to forget about it because I don’t care. But then I thought I’d take a second to share my philosophy on crap like this.
Ready? I’m going to be blunt here.
SOME PEOPLE SUCK. That’s right, they suck, and they are such miserable creatures who desperately want our lives to suck too.
Not happening. Not in my life. I’m too old and wise for that shit. My life is full of love, family, friends, a sweet foster pup, hard work, joy, fun, and yes, there are annoyances, pain and tragedies too. But even as Wizard and I are dealing with hearth-breaking news about a beloved family member, I’m witnessing some amazing love that makes my heart swell and fills me with eternal hope. Honest to God, there is joy and love even in tragedy. No one wants to go through it, but there are real lessons about the human spirit and how we rise to the challenge.
I absolutely refuse to let PEOPLE WHO SUCK tarnish that for one second longer than it takes for me to click the delete button. You don’t have to either. Let’s not allow PEOPLE WHO SUCK to ruin even one minute of our day. We have too much to celebrate, and we have people and animals who need us. They deserve our passion and energy.
Okay I’m done with that
So little Maggie is charming us, challenging us and amusing us. Yesterday she scared us when she got sick. We ran her into the vet tech at the shelter and she looks okay. We’re doing another round of antibiotics to clear up any remaining problems. I’m not a fan of a lot of antibiotics, but she was on the streets then in a shelter, so it’s the wisest course of action right now. She’s growing more confident each day, and is testing boundaries which is fine. She’s a source of love and joy, and we’re grateful for this special girl in our lives right now.
And my little brag–I got her to go in her kennel on her own for the first time yesterday! She may not do it again tonight, but it’s still a big step for her.
Okay let’s get to our Wednesday Worthy Candidate. I found him on Depositphotos yesterday.
What do you think, is he worthy?
Monday, November 6th, 2017
I hope everyone had a great weekend! Mine was good
Today is our anniversary of 35 years! I would marry Wizard all over again. We’re going out to dinner tonight to celebrate. I just want to say: HAPPY ANNIVERSARY WIZARD!
Youngest son (BLB) came by unannounced on Saturday. Wizard and I had a vague plan to go to the movies, but thought we’d skip it when youngest son showed up. But he strongly encouraged us to go while he stayed with Maggie. (It’d been a tough two week’s finding out bad news, then having it confirmed, about a family member and youngest was helping in a big way.) Wizard and I went to see Bad Mom’s Christmas. We both laughed until we cried! It was exactly what we needed–a relief from life. If you like totally inappropriate humor, I highly recommend the movie.
Maggie is an awesome dog who is a “work in progress.” She’s timid and skittish, and has strongly bonded to me, but it’s taking more time with Wizard and everyone else. I’m taking a wait and see approach. If she and Wizard build a bond, we’ll keep her. If it doesn’t work out that way, we’ll work to find her a fantastic forever home. Since we’re dealing with a family illness, I’m not making any decisions, but rather enjoying the gift of Maggie for the moment.
Wizard, by the way, is working at it with her too. One moment she will be great with him, then she’ll suddenly skittish again. Also, she cries and is anxious when I leave. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out she’s had some trauma, but I won’t let anyone feel sorry for her. The goal is to build her confidence into the best Maggie can be
Also this weekend, I got my book back from my critique partner, Marianne. I LOVE her notes. She put comments in the manuscript, and wrote out 22 points of concerns and suggestions, and then she answered all my questions on going forward. I’m both grateful and excited. We also talked on the phone for about an hour as I worked out what to keep in the pages and what to toss out. I know it’s not always easy to hear critiques (criticism of your beloved book), but this is why I wait until I’m not only ready to hear it, but actually desperate for direction.
That’s the moral of the story — don’t ask for a critique until you’re truly ready to listen and appreciate the words of wisdom. Marianne put in untold hours and many days worth of work into this critique, and it’s all invaluable to me. But if I hadn’t been ready to hear it, it would all have been wasted time and effort. So here’s my unasked for advice on critiques for writers:
–Find a critique partner you trust and respect.
–Don’t ask until you’re ready, maybe even desperate, for valuable feedback and guidance.
–Be appreciative! You don’t have to use everything, but it’s a talent and skill to critique pages, and a hell of a lot of work. Treat that with the respect it deserves.
–Don’t be afraid to ask respectful questions and really listen to the answers.
That was my weekend. How was your weekend?
Friday, November 3rd, 2017
Happy Friday! Okay here’s my Friday Five:
- I saw my new doctor and feel good about that. The first hurdle he’s facing is getting my expensive RA medication approved, then we’ll move onto pain management. But I feel so much better having made this change.
- Maggie is super cute It’s a relief now that she’s sleeping at night in her kennel with no complaining, even if she doesn’t want to go in the kennel. My middle son is helping me work on that, along with a lot of great advice I asked for on FB.
- I’m hoping my critique partner doesn’t hate the chunk of the book she’s reading. Naturally I always fear the worst, and it’s a pointless waste of time. I’m going to focus on the positive–I can fix problems once I have her feedback!
- Cancer Really Sucks.
- There’s a street in our neighborhood I have to avoid when walking Maggie because a enraged Rottweiler loses his mind and tries to get over the fence. He can get his chest and front legs to the top of the fence, and one day, he’ll get over. I don’t know what is wrong with people getting a powerful breed dog, then just leaving it in the backyard like that. I blame the owners. Don’t get a power breed dog if you’re not going to put in the work, time, money and attention. I have met plenty of well-balance power breed dogs with great owners, including my grandpuppy Jett. He’s probably a pit-boxer mix, well socialized and very friendly. But he has two owners who care about him. Anyway, that’s my rant for the day.
That’s my Friday Five, now it’s your turn! I really hope everyone has a great weekend.